Keion Henderson and Shaunie O’Neal walked down the aisle on May 28th 2022 after a two-year courtship. The intimate wedding took place on the beautiful island of Anguilla with close family and friends. Their union has created a larger blended family since both have children from their previous relationships.
Recently they sat down and talked
about their relationship journey and some of the things they learned, changed
and had to overcome. They were both vocal and open in what they shared. Shaunie
also pointed out that they both constantly worked on their relationship and
would continue to do so, because that was how they would make a success of their
life together.
Shaunie divulged what happened the
day she actually heard herself telling Keion somethings she would tolerate. “Be
aware that the walls are there, I didn’t realise the walls were there until I began
telling him what I would not tolerate in a relationship. I was giving it all
these limitations and fears. It was then I realized I had all these walls, and these
couldn’t be positive for going into a happy relationship.” She was emphatic that the entire process
starts at awareness of baggage per se or the walls the person might
have.
In order for a relationship to
work Mrs Henderson pointed out that you must be willing to recognise it’s a
problem you need to fix or work on, that
it’s not ok. Another area is that you must also be ready to do something about
it. For her she also confessed that you often won’t recognize what your
challenge is until you’re challenged. “Until the bear is poked you don’t
know if the work you put in has worked.”
Photograph Courtesy People.com
Pastor Keion’s definition of
marriage is simple and short. “Marriage is a collision of histories.” This
short description is quite telling as it acknowledges the experiences both
parties bring to the relationship. He went on to also state. “You must
recognize that everything you will or will not achieve in life, will be a
result of the position of your heart at the time of the opportunity. When your
heart is in the right place, you’ll be amazed at what God can do with someone
who feels inadequate. Because I don’t always feel like I’m good enough to what He’s
called me to do. I don’t always feel like I have the skills He’s asking me to
do but I know what I’m going to bring to the table every time. A heart willing
to be purified and made right by Him.”
The couple decided to speak frankly
in the hope that it would help others who maybe in the same situation know that
a new start is possible despite broken relationships and what people might
consider as baggage. We end with Pastor Keion’s parting thoughts. “I think
your life is a sum total of your yeses and nos. That if you would have said no
where you would have said yes and no where you said yes we would all be
somewhere different. I hope this helps people to say yes in the right places.
And no in the wrong.”
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